Should We Have More Kids?

I read the most recent issue of Today's Parent last night and I was struck by two things: 

1. Mayim Bialik (a.k.a. Blossom or now known as Amy Farah Fowler from The Big Bang Theory) sleeps in a communal bed with her husband and two boys, ages six and three. She stopped breastfeeding when her sons lost interest. Her three year old only recently stopped nursing and in the interview, Mayim said he was feeding four times every night until he was weaned.

                             
                        Whoa. 

I immediately thought of Maggie Gyllenhal's character in Away We Go. And after the initial judgmental knee jerk, I was actually kind of impressed. This woman hasn't gotten a good night's sleep in SIX YEARS. I know what you're thinking. I'm sure she has a nanny! Nope! Mayim said it's just her and her husband. I'm just so in awe of the patience she has to do this! Never mind the lack of sleep but also the lack of privacy with her husband and also the inconvenience/annoyance of having your kid walk up to you and demand boob!

So you go, Mayim Bialik! Ignore the haters and keep doing what you believe is best!

2. The second article I read that stayed with me was written by a mom and a dad with two girls, asking them if they wanted more kids and why or why not. But the kicker is, they each wrote their own answer separately. Talk about Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus! 

Woman: Even though physically and emotionally she knew she couldn't do it again, even though they were blessed with two healthy girls, even though they were managing financially, even though she knows her husband is 100% not interested in having another one, she just doesn't feel done. She would miss being pregnant and never holding a newborn again.

Man: He's 40 years old and he doesn't want to be an old geezer at the playground trying to keep up with his kid. He has "a beautiful wife, and two pretty, healthy girls", so why mess with that? Besides, they're "up to their eyeballs" in debt and having another one would mean moving into a bigger house, which they couldn't afford in their neighborhood. Not to mention the added expense of another child! Summer camp, sports, university!

It was really an eye-opener about the difference between men and women. We really are made differently and most of the time, we're on different pages if not in different books!

So what does this mean for hubby and I? He is pretty much indifferent to having another baby. If that's what I want, he's on board. If I don't want another one, he's on board. It's pretty frustrating. I wish he would just come right out and say exactly what he wants. 

But I know. He wants to make me happy and if it's in his power, he'll do it.

We're looking at bigger houses (well, not necessarily bigger, just with three bedrooms on the same floor). It's discouraging what you get for the amount of money they're asking. I'm really happy in our home. I like our neighborhood. Jr. is sleeping through the night. Why mess with a good thing??

Because I just don't feel like I'm done.