Problem Solving

    I watched the movie Bridesmaids awhile ago, which has been hailed as the female version of The Hangover. My hubby says it's not but that's it's a chick flick in disguise. You be the judge. I won't get into a debate about that. I thought it was funny and so enjoyable to see a movie dominated by funny women. Funny is sexy people!

One of the lines in the movie that caught my attention was:

"I don't associate with people who blame the world for their problems. You are your problem. You are also your solution."

It was a serious moment in a not-so-serious movie. It was difficult taking the character seriously -- so ridiculously funny!-- but she managed to deliver the line in just a way that you could laugh or listen.

    Anyhow, it's something that has stuck with me. I don't believe that I can go the world alone. I need God and I don't know what I'd do without my husband. But just because I depend on people, just because I surround myself with people (my family, my friends, fellow parishioners) doesn't mean I get to blame them for tough times or whatever's ticking me off. It's too easy to do. In the end, our issues are really all about us, right? 

    For example, I've decided to give up breastfeeding. I'm down to one feeding in the night but now that she can hold a bottle, I can fill it up, give it to her and go back to bed. No more sitting up half asleep while she nurses. Part of me is worried that Jr.'s pediatrician will disapprove of me stopping before she's a year old. I worry breastfeeding moms at the baby classes will look down on me for giving Jr. a bottle. But these are my worries, this is my issue. I can't say everyone else has the problem -- I do! This is me negotiating my way through "am I a good mom or bad mom" situation; this isn't about my pediatrician or the moms at baby classes.

I am the problem...but I am also the solution to my problem!