Yesterday hubby and I hosted a potluck dinner for our friends. There are four couples so we don't see each other as a group very often. When we do get together we catch up on what's been going on in our lives. Inevitably, the women go off together somewhere to chat and the men do the same. For the lady-folk it's usually the same questions that go around: "How's school going?" "How is your condo search going?" "How is your house search going?" For some reason, no one asks me anything. Don't get me wrong, my feelings haven't been hurt. I'm just happy to have adult conversation and see what's happening in the world. I just wonder why no one asks me how I'm doing. I mentioned this to hubby and he said, "Maybe because they think you have everything. You're married, you have a house and you have a baby." I'm not sure that makes me feel any better. It's as if once you tick off all the boxes you have nothing to contribute to the conversation anymore. But I'm thinking it has more to do with the fact that we're the only ones in our group with a kid and therefore, it's hard to relate to. Or maybe they think there's not really much you can ask a SAHM (stay-at-home-mom), which is true. I don't have much to talk about unless you want to hear about Jr.'s first teeth.
I often wonder what it will be like when everyone is married and having kids. Where will hubby and I be? How will we relate to everyone? Will we be once again out of the loop? I don't feel sorry for us and I wouldn't change anything about the way we've done things. But that's not to say your choices don't have consequences.
Anywho, you'll be happy to know that someone did ask me how things were going with Jr; it just happened to be one of the men! :)
I feel the same way! I think SAHM are stigmatized, like we don't have anything interesting to talk about because we're at home. But at the same time, I still have trouble when people ask me what's new, even though I try to keep up on current events so I have something to talk about.
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