Judgmental with a Capital "J"

       When I was finishing up my Masters I went to a career counselor. At his office he gave me cards of different colors with different images on them and then he asked me to put them in order of preference. I think it was blue, yellow, green, orange. He was surprised how quickly I had decided; it happened on more than one occasion that the student couldn't do the exercise because it was too stressful. After chatting with me for awhile he commented that it wasn't very often that a 25 year old knew who he/she was or wasn't. He then sent me more tests to do online. I met with him again to discuss the results. Everything was as I expected. The career I would be most suited to was "writer" and the second was "college professor". What I wasn't expecting was the rating of one of my character traits. I was off the charts judgmental. Literally off the charts. For most of the questions, the black bar went a little more to one side than the other but in the judgment category, it was ridiculously obvious that I was judgmental. I expressed my shock at this revelation and he took me through some exercises to prove it. I discovered that the only reason why I thought I wasn't so judgmental was because I kept my opinion and/or thoughts to myself. But, the career counselor pointed out, just because I don't say it aloud, doesn't mean I haven't made a judgment in my head! Turns out, if someone says something that I firmly disagree with, I'll nod, smile or make some kind of noncommittal comment but inside my mind I'll be thinking, WHAT?!? ARE YOU CRAZY?! My husband is the only person with whom I will completely and utterly speak my mind.

      So. Am I really as nice as I think I am? Does keeping my mouth shut despite my true thoughts actually make me nice? Or am I just as bad as the person who lets every thought free flow from their lips?

      I can just imagine that all of my friends and family will now be thinking when they talk to me, What is she really thinking?? You'll never know! :)

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