30 Day Challenge

My sister sent me a link to Hannah Handmade, an impressive blog by a teenage girl who is into crafting. She posted a 30 day writing challenge that my sister urged me to do. Each day I will tackle the topic listed. I scanned the list and for the most part it shouldn't be a problem but there are some items I'm not looking forward to writing about. But I suppose that's a part of the challenge! So I hope you enjoy the next 30 days!

Day One: Your current relationship, if single discuss how single life is.

Well, for those of you who have been following my blog, you'll know that I recently celebrated my 5-year wedding anniversary. My husband and I met when we were 17 working at Burger King. He was in the kitchen and I was a cashier. When telling people this story my hubby loves to say, "It was love at the first Whopper." What a cheeseball!

But seriously, I remember on our first date we walked to the movie theater, which was a good 30 minute walk and we talked the entire way. There weren't any awkward silences and we just... clicked. And we've been clicking ever since. This is not to say we have the perfect relationship! But I can say that he has made me a better person and want to be an even better person. He taught me to talk things through rather than walk away. He taught me to say 'please' and 'thank you'. My parents taught me this when I was little, of course, it's just that you tend to take advantage of your loved ones and eventually you stop saying 'please' and 'thank you'. My hubby always thanks me, whether it be for unloading the dishwasher, making dinner or taking care of our daughter. So in turn, I thank him for going to work to support his family, for mowing the lawn or for bringing in my paper when it's been left at the end of the driveway. It really is the little things that count.

My husband is also the most patient person I've ever met. Really. It's bizarre that he ended up with someone who has so little patience. I joke that when God was creating me, the angels said, "But God, you can't give Melissa so little patience! How will she get through life??" And God just smiled and said, "Don't worry, I'm making someone special just for her!" And He did! I'm still one of the most impatient people on the planet but my hubby has set a great example for me.

My mom always stressed that your husband should come before everything and everyone else (except God). When I was little, it hurt my feelings because I didn't understand. But now that I'm a wife and mother, I get it. If I don't tend to my martial relationship, what does that say to my daughter? That children come first? That her dad is expendable? My dad said that he treated my mom the way he wanted his daughters' husbands to treat them. When kids look at their parents, they think that's what's normal and what a marriage is because they don't know any different. So if you want your kids to have great marriages, best be sure to work on yours!

I read somewhere that marriage is about making you holy. I didn't understand at first but 5 years down the line, I'm starting to. Marriage is about compromise. Marriage is about sacrifice. Sacrificing your ego. Sacrificing your time. Sacrificing your selfishness. It humbles you. It lifts you up. Well, it can do all these things if you let it.

My husband is my best friend. I love spending time with him. I love talking with him. I love laughing with him. I love him.